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Well have you ever heard of Active Listening?
What it is is a way of talking that allows people to go on about themselves. Every man needs to learn this because women love it.
Its asking open-ended questions. Dont be those guys who ask the same basic things (where you from, classes, brothers, etc.). You ask those to start out, and then you pick up on specific things. If they say they're from the NE ask them how they like it, if they ever went skiing, what things there are to do there. If she mensions she is pre-med ask her if she ever thought about volunteering at a hospital.
Open-Ended questions are great because it takes the pressure off of you and allows them to talk about themselves.
What you need to understand is when you dont know someone your mind associates him to different things. If they talked all night about themselves they dont know anything BAD about you, and that is good. If you're witty it'll come through in the converstation, if you're funny it'll come through too, so dont worry. Women love to talk about themselves therefore they'll associate you with pleasure and will want to see you again (expecting the same).
But, your main problem is overthinking it. Just relax, talk to a girl on the bus to school, talk to the lunchlady, talk to a cashier, talk to whoever you can. Eventually you'll start seeing the hot girls just what they are... just regular girls.
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"Smite the rocks with the rod of knowledge, and fountains of unstinted wealth will gush forth." - Ashbel Smith as he laid the first cornerstone of the University of Texas
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