OK, since this keeps nagging at me, I've searched through most of your TFP posts, trying to gain more insight. Back since at least April you have been discussing these issues. But the one in September got to me:
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If his neck swivels every time he see's his prefered type in the street,if he says things like"damn,those pants must be painted on" aloud in your prescence when a woman of his prefered type walks by,if he generally makes love to you only with the lights out
if he gives you compliments but then turns the compliment to crap with qualifers. When you find yourself wishing he'd not compliement you at all and no matter what you do about your appearance you'll never measure up.This type is pretty good about doing a number on your self esteem but curiously they then get mad at you for not thinking highly of yourself.
I guess I don't get it,there's nothing wrong with liking certain physical attributes.If a man likes a certain type so much why not stay single till a woman of that type comes along rather than hooking up with a woman of another type and letting her know she doesn't make the grade?
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Is it also possible that the guy you are dating is just a controlling asshole? Compliments followed by put-downs sounds to me like a standard mind-control method used by control freaks, trying to make you think that he is your last chance, and no one else could possibly love you.
I could be completely out of line here, sorry if I am.