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Sure. Part of the problem is that she is not feeling appreciated. At the end of the day, she is probably tired and mentally worn out. Sex just becomes another obligation that she has to fulfill rather than becoming something that she looks forward to. Young kids can sap the sexual energy out of a woman like nothing else. The cuddling thing is her attempt at trying to rekindle some of the passion so that sex doesn't seem so much like a chore. Here is what you do to fix it.
Show her affection on a daily basis. This means blocking out the kids (i.e. get out of the same room and don't allow interruptions) and really talking to each other about your day and just things. My wife and I do this at a minimum of 30 minutes a day (along with calls throughout the day), but we typically try for an hour to two hours. We have a mandated date night (different nights of the week due to our busy schedules). I am constantly touching her on her back, arms, neck. My favorite thing is to hug her from behind and give her a light kiss (no tongue) on her neck. You would be amazed at how just doing these little things can add real spark to your marriage. You just have to realize that the relationship is you and your wife first and then the kids. Place her first. My wife and I have been married 12 years, and we have better and more frequent sex than we had the first year of marriage. It took me quite awhile to figure it out. This is perfectly normal when you have little kids, but you have to work on a relationship to make it grow and evolve.
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