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IMHO I think some of the attraction men have for us women is based a lot on our attitude. Back when I was younger (I'm 29 so I know not old really but not 19) I got attention but it wasn't that frequent and not outright offers. Since hubby and I started swinging I learned more about my body and learned to love it even with it's scars and post childbirth shape. I'm not shy anymore - actually kindof bold I think sometimes. I enjoy flirting and talking about sex and just plain sex. The guys I meet never seem to blink twice when they see any of my flaws. They have told me that my unabashed enjoyment of sexual things makes it exciting for them.
Hubby doesn't seem to mind my body changes whatsoever. What gets him turned on the fastest is when I let him know that I NEED him and WANT HIM sexually. We did go through a time when I felt ugly and things were difficult. Just after our daughter was born. I was about 40 lbs heavier than I am now, and had an ugly scar across my lower abdomen. Then along with the usual, down of changing hormones, lack of libido and just plain exhausted and in pain from the c-section I had no interest in sex and he wasn't physically attracted to me. That changed with time as I cared for myself, and felt better about myself.
I don't care how wrinkled or heavy a person can be, if they have that inner glow of confidence and joy they can be so much more attractive than a perfect size 6, 19 yr old girl, who got a bad attitude.
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