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Originally posted by Thraeryn
Um, I like you a lot, lurkette.
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Support her if/when she comes back, but never, never, never tell her she's making a mistake, etc. That will make her believe that you're not on "her" side which, at the moment, is his side. Just mysteriously don't be around.
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I like you, too, Thrae
But we may have to agree to disagree on this one. If she finds herself suddenly, mysteriously isolated, all she has is the boyfriend to turn to. If, however, she finds herself isolated and knows (because you've told her) that the cure to said isolation is dumping the boyfriend, then it's not the same as being on the boyfriend's side. It's being on her side, just from a distance.
Easy for us to argue about this from over here, since it's not our lives and it's all hypothetical. And I'll be the first to admit I have no experience getting people to change their behavior (and believe me I've tried), so if Thraeryn's method has a proven track record, go for it.