I agree with the 7-year thing. For my wife and I, it happened at around 6 years just due to circumstances. We were just about to have our first child (sex was at a low), and her mother had just died. We went to the brink of divorce before we decided that life apart was too painful. We made a renewed commitment to each other. While we still have lulls in the relationship, it is generally pretty intense, and I can say I can't imagine spending my life with someone else. I had the same issues with not finding her sexually attractive, etc., but once I got my emotional feelings for her straightened out it really blossomed. On the television show Ed last night, Ed's best friend was talking to his wife about their sex life after years of marriage. They had sex 22 times the previous year and were headed for 19 in the current year. My wife and I figured out we have sex approximately 100-120 times a year after 12 years of marriage, so things can't be all bad.
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