The timeline makes this issues particularly tricky. While all stereotypes are false, they also have some grain of truth that got them started. This is true with the 7-year itch. My boyfriend (now hubby) and I lived together for .... coincidence ... 7 1/2 years before deciding to get married.
The sever year itch had set in. While we didn't have problems, the "spark" just wasn't there. After going over and over the problem, we decided that the basis for a permanent relationship was indeed there and took the plunge. That was 16 years ago!
You'll note that I never commented on the "medical issue." I can't -- I don't know what it was and probably have no similar experience anyway. What I can see in common, however, is the time together. Even without medical issues, after 7 or so years, it is time to go somewhere new. Maybe, just maybe, the issue isn't medical at all. For us, it turned out to be deciding between marriage with the additional commitment or new partners. We chose marriage.... and we're still together.
Is life (and sex) perfect? No. Do I regret our decision for a moment? Not on you life.
Good luck!
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