emotes

My fiancée and I have been together for 7 years and got engaged within the last year and a half. Shortly after the engagement she had a health issue come up which was very stressful for her, as well as for us. The health issue lasted for about six months, the emotional toll of the health issue lasted for about a good year.

Now, it's been five months since both the health and emotional issue are clear and out of the way BUT the sexual passion of the relationship is gone. Totally gone. This is not a question of love, I have no doubt that I love her. It just so happens that I am no longer attracted to her since the health issues. Yes we have sex, sure it can be fun BUT it's nothing like what it used to be (before the medical issue), it's not as frequent and I am no where near into it as I used to be.

We've talked about this issue - we've tried to address it but the sexual spark seems to be gone and no matter what we try it just doesn't want to come back. I think the biggest part is that the medical issue caused a different side of her to come out - a side I did not like. Now that it's under control I cannot get the "bad" experience out of my head. It's almost like I know the demon that is living just below the surface.

Now the advice...

Is this normal? To be truthful, I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone (*EVEN THOUGH I LOVE THEM*) if I do not desire them. Can anyone share thoughts / comments / advice / experiences?

Thanks,
Emotes