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Originally posted by Jim Kata
Well....She brings over shitty junk food, I have been eating pretty healthy for the past month or so....and what am I supposed to say "Hey don't bring that here, you're getting fat!". I can't do that. She does, however leave it at my house so when cleaning, I sometimes "accidentally" throw it away. Great, now I'm starting to feel like a dick towards her.
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The message I got from Jim Kata's original message seems to be different from everyone else's. In his message, I heard a concern for her health and well being in the present and future, not that he thought she was uglier which some people suggested. I think the whole team effort is a good idea, but I would definitely add diet to the regime. Don't tell her you're worried about her weight, tell her you're worried about her health. Weight and health tend to have a strong correlation, but talking to her about her health is much more tactful and I think it shows you care.
If she agrees to work on health with you as a team, that's when I'd ask her to try cutting down on snacks. Throwing out her snacks is indirect and kind of underhanded. Try making a deal with her: you'll provide her with healthier snacks if she promises not to bring unhealthy ones to your place. Depending on the kind of diet you guys go with, these snacks could be things like fresh fruits with yogurt or even a cold pasta (without too much oil or dressing). Or if you want to stick with mainly an exercise theme, ask her to exercise X-amount per every unhealthy snack so she "works it off." It might help her relate junk foods with being unhealthy if she is reminded of how much exercise she needs to do to break even with the calorie intake and burning. The exercise will need to be done within the next few hours after the snack for it to actually be worked off, otherwise it is just stored away into the body and it becomes much more difficult.
Definitely make her aware of how highly caloric alcohol is. There are plenty of websites on it, try googling "alcohol calorie." Here is one website that I think may be useful:
http://www.collegedrinkingprevention...coholcalc.aspx
And if you think she is unhappy, ask her. Warn her you're not a mind reader and if she's not being upfront about it, you'll never know the truth. If she has a problem it might just build up until it becomes irrepairable or hard to resolve. It's easier to deal with small problems instead of small problems that turned into bigger ones. Most people realize after it's too late that it's always much easier to talk about them before you explode.