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Originally posted by shannon
i totally want to experiment. and my bf does too. and we had this friend who was like this really loving third wheel. and we'd lay in bed for hours cuddling but we just never had the guts to act on anything. i think it was weird for her cause she loved us but it was like being just inside the outer layer of something with many layers, you know? i don't know if anything will ever happen, but i would like it to. my group of friends is very touchy but all in a fun playful way so it would be hard to get anyhwere past like a closed mouth kiss i think without the whole small town talking about me being some crazy lesbo who tries to kiss her non lesbian friends. i have a feeling some of these small town minds are more open, but i'm just not ready to risk to find out which ones.
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It works best if you stick to close friends. Fewer is better. One at a time is easiest. Maybe you can talk to your third wheel first instead of kissing her. Tell her a little of how you feel and ask how she feels about women with women in general.
How about back rubs?
BTW: in this kind of situation, sometimes it's best to put the third wheel in the middle. You and your BF can lie on either side of her and make her the center of attention. Put her needs first. Team up on her and make her feel good.
Remember, if things don't work out, you and BF still have each other. She doesn't have anyone to fall back on. So... you have to make her feel secure.
Try something and tell us how it goes. We would all like to hear a good success story!