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oneofmanymen · 08-22-2003, 07:21 AM

Well having been in a situation kinda like this myself, I think the advice that she has the right to be unreasonable is true but not true to this case. The reason I say that is she apparently had this view before she was with child, and that is selfish. When my ex was pregnant, with our two kids and the third we lost, she was really into having sex when she wanted to get pregnant but that was about the only time in our whole marrage. Once she was pregnant I couldnt touch her. No sex for just about the rest of the nine month's for each child, and then the 2 months after that the doc tells you to wait. So out of the 8 years of being married to her that cut out two years of sex right there. I think when a woman cannot perform with her man, and doesnt want him to whack off on there own its a control thing. I if you look back on your sex life with her she sounds like she is controling things and was before she was pregnant. Making Love should be what two people decide is right for them, not what one dictates. I am just going on what you have typed from above. I would be curious to know if she likes you to perform orally on her. I can understand where there could be complications that would make it bad for her to orgasm at this point. But I am wondering since you said she doesnt like to give you a BJ, does she like to be orally pleased? I really hope that you both can get passed this I am not trying to make her out to be the bad person in this, but I do think it is something you have to look at from an overall standpoint not just that shes pregnant and has the right to be unreasonable. Yes you should also be happy that you are able to have children but thats hardly the point or topic here either. But things will get tougher in your sex life after she has the baby.....she will be tierd and now there will be someone you have to be careful not to let catch you, maybe not right away but soon enough. I think if this doesnt get resolved it could become a real problem. Because your sex life will be less of a feature in your marriage for the next couple years.

I hope I have helped you a bit and I wish you the best of luck..

oomm

08-22-2003, 07:21 AM	#15 (permalink)
oneofmanymen Insane Location: Wisconsin	Well having been in a situation kinda like this myself, I think the advice that she has the right to be unreasonable is true but not true to this case. The reason I say that is she apparently had this view before she was with child, and that is selfish. When my ex was pregnant, with our two kids and the third we lost, she was really into having sex when she wanted to get pregnant but that was about the only time in our whole marrage. Once she was pregnant I couldnt touch her. No sex for just about the rest of the nine month's for each child, and then the 2 months after that the doc tells you to wait. So out of the 8 years of being married to her that cut out two years of sex right there. I think when a woman cannot perform with her man, and doesnt want him to whack off on there own its a control thing. I if you look back on your sex life with her she sounds like she is controling things and was before she was pregnant. Making Love should be what two people decide is right for them, not what one dictates. I am just going on what you have typed from above. I would be curious to know if she likes you to perform orally on her. I can understand where there could be complications that would make it bad for her to orgasm at this point. But I am wondering since you said she doesnt like to give you a BJ, does she like to be orally pleased? I really hope that you both can get passed this I am not trying to make her out to be the bad person in this, but I do think it is something you have to look at from an overall standpoint not just that shes pregnant and has the right to be unreasonable. Yes you should also be happy that you are able to have children but thats hardly the point or topic here either. But things will get tougher in your sex life after she has the baby.....she will be tierd and now there will be someone you have to be careful not to let catch you, maybe not right away but soon enough. I think if this doesnt get resolved it could become a real problem. Because your sex life will be less of a feature in your marriage for the next couple years. I hope I have helped you a bit and I wish you the best of luck.. oomm __________________ Everything works if you let it.... Last edited by oneofmanymen; 08-22-2003 at 07:25 AM..