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I know you don't want to let go but at some point you have to realize you can't keep her if she doesn't want to be there. You need to understand the root of what she's after. You mention that she wants to be with other guys but there are no specifics about what she's looking for from these guys.
Communication is a key here. Both of you have to get at what she's looking for, whether she was ever getting what she needed in your relationship, and if she was when did it change? Counseling is one way to go but if she's not looking to salvage the relationship there's no way it will work.
Whatever happens, you can't let it be the end all be all in your life. Recognize that there are some things you can't control, her desires/needs being one of them. If the worst happens, well, you'll survive and likely be stronger for it. If you can salvage this (and no matter what you're looking at A LOT of work on both your parts) then your relationship will also be stronger.
The worst thing you can do is to give in on things that you can't stand just to keep the relationship going. If you do that you'll just end up resenting her and it will end even worse.
Good luck. And remember, there's a lot more out there for you than just her.
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