rainheart

That's funny, that sounds very similar to my dad and the story behind my parents divorce, except my parents had 3 kids including me.

My dad did everything- buy an expensive condo, a new car, 4 new computers, and was having an affair behind my moms back. He asked me while driving one day if it would be ok if he married another woman if him and my mom got divorced, of course he wasn't actually asking, he was just bringing it to my attention. Furthermore when I was visiting my dad's condo he made quite a few long distance calls to his to-be wife (he went back and forth between Canada and Iran for work purposes), and when it was my turn to exchange words I felt like she was sucking up to me the way she talked, it was pathetic.

My dad too, hid behind the guise of being a religious man, his faith was islam. He tried to teach me how to do the praying rituals and all that.

What was really sad was that my mom had been working while my dad visited back and forth between countries to support me and my middle half brother, while my oldest half brother was on his own trying to make it out doing different jobs. After 3 or 4 years of working to pay the rent and putting food on the table my mom is once again on her own to do some job hunting and find a better job.

Now it's just me and my mom. I keep in touch with my brothers but they're "on my dad's side" as far as sentiments go. My dad did try to buy me out, got me a new computer, took me places and whatever, spewed all sorts of bs rhetoric at me and for a while I was fooled.

I don't know, if there's one thing I've learned it's that with the abscene of an aggressive and authoritarian dad, your outlook on life can grow to be somewhat immoral.

Edit: And my dad did his share of child abuse as well.