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LutherMac · 08-06-2003, 07:30 PM

I've recently found myself in a bit of a strange pickle. Not sure if most of you know this, but I recently got married. (Thanks) Anyway.... my wife's and her best friend have been good friends for about a year now, and they always spend lots of time together. About a month before the wedding, I found out just some of the things they were doing during that time. Needless to say, they are a bit more than friendly together. Personally, I had no problem with a little experimentation and stuff before the wedding, and I let her know this. It bothered me a bit, since I caught her meeting guys online about 8 months ago, but I just shrugged it off for the time being.

Now, its about 2 weeks after the wedding, and I was asked this weekend if I minded if her and her friend went on a weekend trip together to get away from the families. I asked, and my wife told me that they were going to be "together" during this trip, and I put my foot down, saying that all that was over now that we were husband and wife. She supposedly talked it over with her friend, and said they weren't going to mess around anymore, but they still wanted to go on this trip. I found myself forced to agree to let her go.

Today, I just happened to be on her computer, when I notice an e-mail that stated:

"Sometimes when we are together and your the kids are around I might wish they hat they weren't around. Sometimes when it's just us it's nice. There are alot of times where when your just being your cute little self, I just want to kiss you. What do you like to hear me say? Cause I 'll say it all the time for you. I love you to hear your voice , I love your sense of humor, and I love just being around you, you make me feel good. You have no idea how special you are."

I don't know what to think. She's carrying on this relationship being my back.... and I'm really starting to feel like I made a huge mistake. Her friend isn't the greatest person in the world, and she has affairs all the time, and I'm afraid of "Monkey See Monkey Do".

I don't want to be overbearing and forbid her to see her friend, but I don't want her running around on me either. Any ideas of what I can do?

08-06-2003, 07:30 PM	#1 (permalink)
LutherMac Crazy Location: St. Louis, MO	Problem with her best friend I've recently found myself in a bit of a strange pickle. Not sure if most of you know this, but I recently got married. (Thanks) Anyway.... my wife's and her best friend have been good friends for about a year now, and they always spend lots of time together. About a month before the wedding, I found out just some of the things they were doing during that time. Needless to say, they are a bit more than friendly together. Personally, I had no problem with a little experimentation and stuff before the wedding, and I let her know this. It bothered me a bit, since I caught her meeting guys online about 8 months ago, but I just shrugged it off for the time being. Now, its about 2 weeks after the wedding, and I was asked this weekend if I minded if her and her friend went on a weekend trip together to get away from the families. I asked, and my wife told me that they were going to be "together" during this trip, and I put my foot down, saying that all that was over now that we were husband and wife. She supposedly talked it over with her friend, and said they weren't going to mess around anymore, but they still wanted to go on this trip. I found myself forced to agree to let her go. Today, I just happened to be on her computer, when I notice an e-mail that stated: "Sometimes when we are together and your the kids are around I might wish they hat they weren't around. Sometimes when it's just us it's nice. There are alot of times where when your just being your cute little self, I just want to kiss you. What do you like to hear me say? Cause I 'll say it all the time for you. I love you to hear your voice , I love your sense of humor, and I love just being around you, you make me feel good. You have no idea how special you are." I don't know what to think. She's carrying on this relationship being my back.... and I'm really starting to feel like I made a huge mistake. Her friend isn't the greatest person in the world, and she has affairs all the time, and I'm afraid of "Monkey See Monkey Do". I don't want to be overbearing and forbid her to see her friend, but I don't want her running around on me either. Any ideas of what I can do? __________________ Always remember that you are unique... just like everyone else!