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Jonsgirl · 08-06-2003, 06:06 PM

IMO:
What defines a "good marriage"?
A marriage is a partnership between two equals. It has room to grow and develop. It's work, and it takes maturity, patience, and unconditonal love. It's a safe haven in a mad, mad world.

Is there a "one right person" for each of us?
Yes. Well, I think Pellaz said it best. For the person who I am now, there would only be my husband.

How do you decide when to get married?
When there's nothing else in the world but for the two of you to commit yourselves forever. It wasn't a rash desicion. We had our problems and I had been away for a few months, but once I saw him again; there was no other option for me. I needed him in my life.

What are you (or what should you be) willing to do to keep it?
Most importantly, learn from you mistakes. We are human and prone to err, but not repeatedly. Be understanding and open. Accept that there are things you will have to compromise on and some things that you will just have to live with.

Under what circumstances would you consider breaking up?
N/A

If you had it to do over again, would you?
Yes. Yes. Yes.

If you would, would you do anything different?
I'd do a little more growing up first. But I don't mean in a sexual way. I enjoyed learning everything with my husband.

What advice do you have for all of the never-married folks on TFP?
Know yourself. Know your limits. It's natural to have doubts (it is a huge step,) but if you honestly don't know whether it's right person, time, etc. - don't do it yet. And remember to have fun.

Insert your thoughts and quesitons here...
Make a little mantra for just the two of you. Something that's special, and heartfelt to both of you. It will get you through alot.
Don't let the sex life die. Keep exploring each other's bodies and minds.

I've been very happily married for 3+ years now. In my first marriage. (I'd hope so, I'm only 22). I'll never stop being in Love with him.

08-06-2003, 06:06 PM	#12 (permalink)
Jonsgirl Semi-Atomic Location: Home.	Re: A dialog about marriage IMO: What defines a "good marriage"? A marriage is a partnership between two equals. It has room to grow and develop. It's work, and it takes maturity, patience, and unconditonal love. It's a safe haven in a mad, mad world. Is there a "one right person" for each of us? Yes. Well, I think Pellaz said it best. For the person who I am now, there would only be my husband. How do you decide when to get married? When there's nothing else in the world but for the two of you to commit yourselves forever. It wasn't a rash desicion. We had our problems and I had been away for a few months, but once I saw him again; there was no other option for me. I needed him in my life. What are you (or what should you be) willing to do to keep it? Most importantly, learn from you mistakes. We are human and prone to err, but not repeatedly. Be understanding and open. Accept that there are things you will have to compromise on and some things that you will just have to live with. Under what circumstances would you consider breaking up? N/A If you had it to do over again, would you? Yes. Yes. Yes. If you would, would you do anything different? I'd do a little more growing up first. But I don't mean in a sexual way. I enjoyed learning everything with my husband. What advice do you have for all of the never-married folks on TFP? Know yourself. Know your limits. It's natural to have doubts (it is a huge step,) but if you honestly don't know whether it's right person, time, etc. - don't do it yet. And remember to have fun. Insert your thoughts and quesitons here... Make a little mantra for just the two of you. Something that's special, and heartfelt to both of you. It will get you through alot. Don't let the sex life die. Keep exploring each other's bodies and minds. I've been very happily married for 3+ years now. In my first marriage. (I'd hope so, I'm only 22). I'll never stop being in Love with him. __________________ Someday, someone will best me. But it won't be today, and it won't be you.