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Midnightskyline · 04-29-2011, 02:12 PM

Hi everyone, first post here.

So basically I wanted to start with a question, have you ever delved into the history/Past of your spouse? Namely old emails, social networking posts, old texts etc. And if so, have you ever discovered something you wish you hadn't? I'm sort of looking for someone to identify with me here. Although I know and understand completely that snooping is wrong and it exposes my insecurities, but the expression 'curiosity killed the cat' was coined for a reason! I have a loving long term relationship with my girlfriend (we are both mid 20's) but one day I discovered (she left her email signed in and the page open) a few emails from before we were together (I know I know I know), some of which contained stuff that no red blooded male wants to read about his supposedly innocent and pure of mind better half.

The reason I decided to post this in the sexuality section is because this clandestine knowledge has started to affect my sex life, and to a greater extent, my day to day happiness and comfort. I find myself constantly looking for more information, more old emails etc etc. Not good. I suppose I am insecure and a little immature, but you must realise the first discovery was almost accidental, which lead to my near obsession with her past. Anyone else had similar experiences? How did you deal with it?

You must realise, before casting aspersions, that I admit my faults and know that it is wrong. I am simply seeking for someone to identify with and for some advice or perhaps similar experiences.

Incidentally, if anyone would require details of the 'dirt' those old emails contained then I shall provide if asked, albeit with a grimace and stomach butterflies!

Thanks for reading. Please no tldr's or trolls, lol. Oh and I hate typing on a bloody iPhone!

04-29-2011, 02:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
Midnightskyline Upright	Ever snooped, wish you hadn't? Hi everyone, first post here. So basically I wanted to start with a question, have you ever delved into the history/Past of your spouse? Namely old emails, social networking posts, old texts etc. And if so, have you ever discovered something you wish you hadn't? I'm sort of looking for someone to identify with me here. Although I know and understand completely that snooping is wrong and it exposes my insecurities, but the expression 'curiosity killed the cat' was coined for a reason! I have a loving long term relationship with my girlfriend (we are both mid 20's) but one day I discovered (she left her email signed in and the page open) a few emails from before we were together (I know I know I know), some of which contained stuff that no red blooded male wants to read about his supposedly innocent and pure of mind better half. The reason I decided to post this in the sexuality section is because this clandestine knowledge has started to affect my sex life, and to a greater extent, my day to day happiness and comfort. I find myself constantly looking for more information, more old emails etc etc. Not good. I suppose I am insecure and a little immature, but you must realise the first discovery was almost accidental, which lead to my near obsession with her past. Anyone else had similar experiences? How did you deal with it? You must realise, before casting aspersions, that I admit my faults and know that it is wrong. I am simply seeking for someone to identify with and for some advice or perhaps similar experiences. Incidentally, if anyone would require details of the 'dirt' those old emails contained then I shall provide if asked, albeit with a grimace and stomach butterflies! Thanks for reading. Please no tldr's or trolls, lol. Oh and I hate typing on a bloody iPhone!