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Originally Posted by The_Jazz
First, I think we need more information, as dlish pointed out. There are potentially big differences between your "near sexless marriage" and my definition of the same.
Second, I'm very curious why you feel the need to quote me from another thread seemingly out of context. Based on what prompted that statement, especially the behind-the-scenes stuff that you should have no idea about, I read your question in a very different light.
So why don't you come out with it and tell us what's really going on.
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do you sometimes think youre a bit too aggressive really (verbally)?
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Anyway, to address the original question... NO ONE can tell you the answers to your life problems, we can only give views based on our own life experiences that you can try to find some value in.
My own view is that different sex drives is one of the biggest reasons relationships fail. If one partner is really sexy and the other just doesnt like it that much, it is very difficult to find any common ground. Either the sexy one will be frustrated all the time, or the unsexy one feel like they have to do stuff they dont really have an interest in to make the other happy: either path leads to tension, resentment, breakdown.
A lot of people come out with stuff like "someone who isnt into sex must be repressed somehow" but my own feelings are just that some people really arent that into it. I dont mean to give a depressing answer or be negative... but if you cannot come to an accomodation (and a lot of marriages like this become half open - which is a very difficult thing and takes more maturity than I have certainly) I dont see how things will ever change
You either have to settle for some middle groudn because the rest of the relationship makes it worth it, or really take a long hard look at things imo.