I do understand avoiding the fight. For about two months I psyched myself out denying my marriage was dying. Had I faced it then I'd be a lot better off than I am now.
Running doesn't help, friend. Get it over with and stay tough. Confrontations happen and is a necessary part of life.
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example of not having a spine possibly ruining your current life
A gay male lives in my house and is a very sweet kid. I like him a lot as a friend and have kind of taken him under my wing because his dad ditched him because he is gay.
The other day I heard one of the puppies holler. I thought he hit the puppy and I fucking snapped. "If you ever hit anything in my house you will be kicked the fuck out."
I was an idiot because I was wrong; he did not hit the dog; it was just an odd misunderstanding witnessed by a third party. I apologized profusely and explained that hitting an animal not out of self defense is like hitting a small kid and I totally lose it.
If he would had told me what happened instead of his flight we would have had less drama.
I was an idiot but his lack of standing up for himself did not help, either.
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