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Originally Posted by ZombieSquirrel
THIS HAPPENS TO ME ALL THE TIME! I hate it.
I'll want to add something to a conversation but the "overtalkers" take it over and new topics are generated so by the time you have a moment to interject, it's not relevant anymore.
I was raised to never interrupt or talk over people. It's polite. I also feel it makes me a better listener. It seems as if people don't really listen. They just want to talk.
So I don't like talking to people because, well, they're rude. I'm sure I have been rude and talked out of turn or interrupted, but I try really hard not to do that.
I fear I may come off as quiet or shy (which is not the case) in some social situations because I don't like fighting for talk time.
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I'm sorry
My apology is for you, ZS, and for all of the other people I talk over. I know I do this, but I think part of it is because I come from a loud family of overtalkers. My husband says my family scares him because we're so noisy.
I try to listen but my hearing is not the greatest in situations where there is a lot of background noise. Talking is easier for me than listening in certain places, so I tend to dominate conversations at times. I always feel bad for doing it afterward, and my husband doesn't help. He regularly upbraids me when he feels I've talked too much.
I definitely consider this one of my greatest flaws, and I am always always always trying to fight it and not fall into my bad, bad, BAD habit of talking over other people.
high_jinx, I think 9er got it right: you have to be assertive if you want to be heard, and realize that most people are terrible listeners. Listening is a skill that most people don't cultivate. I've been trying for years to cultivate it, but I still feel like I fall far short of the mark.