It kind of startled me when one day the bank teller called me by name when I pulled up to the drive through (prior to me putting my deposit in the drawer). I kind of looked at her funny and said "how do you know my name", she simply stated well you're a customer here and you come through every week. Doh! I felt dumb for being uncomfortable with it, of course she would know my name, she's supposed to know my name, it's her job to make me feel like our transactions are personal and not robotic... but it made me feel weird. I didn't invite her in, I didn't look at her name tag and say hello to her calling her by name.
But if you're a server, or a bank teller, or a grocery store checker... someone with a name tag. Does it make you uncomfortable if we call you by name? When my youngest was small and just learning to read she would talk to the store checkers and call them by name. She would say thank you Susie, or hi John, as if she knew them. A couple of them did a double take, wondering if they knew her until it dawned on them or I pointed out their name tag.
I suppose the real answer is going to be "everyone is different", how our brains work and what is ok for one and not the other is interesting stuff.
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