Wes Mantooth

I'd have to echo what Plan said above, I don't mind a little play but when your bordering on assault it gets to be a little much. Not to mention in my own experience sometimes the submissiveness carried over into other aspects of a relationship and became more of a headache then a fun game you play every now and then (nor could sex be anything but sub/dom). But it really depends on the person, some seem to like light playful games and others seem to be full blown put your cigarette out on my tongue while lighting fire crackers in my ass, some its just a passive fetish while others make it a lifestyle. Along with talking to her and finding out more about what turns her on, you need to ask your self how far you're willing to go as well.

It seems like an easy question, "Yeah so long as I get to fuck you I can drip candle wax on your tits and spank with you with a coat hanger" but personally I don't find it that easy, especially when it gets beyond harmless play. I "dated" a girl who was like this a little while ago and it seemed like every time we had sex she wanted the violence to escalate, at first it was just things like tying her up and being a little rough but when she started asking me to "really mess her up" I just had to draw the line and walk away, to me it just wasn't fun or a turn on. I don't know I'm not up to snuff on my fetishes and maybe she was into something that falls into another category (she had some bizarre and scary fantasies), but never the less, be careful, always communicate and have a line of your own you're not willing to cross.

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