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Originally Posted by aborder
Funny that people assume because I'm the guy, I'm the one taking HER for a ride.
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Long story short/medium; broke up with my gf of about 1 year end of October last year. However, we have kept seeing each other since...
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..also I don't want to hurt my ex by potentially sleeping around her back while we're still seeing each other...
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Well after a while, we had a talk since we have gone back to living our own lives. It didn't go into dating, we just both agreed not to sleep with anyone else...
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Although since I've gotten back from my trip, she's had moments where she's cried because she wants to see me more, is worried about the path we're currently on leading to her wanting to get back together (We really do enjoy each other's company, and have been happy together)...
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Originally Posted by aborder
Lately it's dawned me on that maybe it wasn't the best choice to keep each other around because initially it was fine but it seems recently it's getting to her and she's getting hurt.. and the only place it can lead to is her getting hurt even more since it's going to have to stop one day or another...
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Clearly, it seems continuing to see my ex, is leaving her with moments where she's already getting hurt wanting more or atleast thinking about it, and there's no chance we're going to get serious again...
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So I already decided recently it needed to end, wanted to do it last time I was with her, which was BEFORE I got involved with this new interest, but...
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Here's the way I see it: You broke up with your SO, but kept seeing her, sleeping with her and emotionally bonding with her on a mutually exclusive basis.
When it was clear she wanted more and was hurting because you wouldn't give it to her, you continued on your merry way.
Once you decided it was in her best interest to break it off completely, you still did not and have not split with her.
In the meantime you started to date, then decided to stop and ask the ol' TFP whether or not you should tell your girlfriend about the new girl you want to bang while you're in the process of breaking up with her. Do you really need us to answer that question?