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My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months. We started our relationship having a lot of sex but not talking about what we really like when having sex. I brought up the topic of sexual fantasies in a playful manner...I wanted to know what she wanted to do. Then she told me something that surprised me. She told me not to get mad or anything and I obliged...she tells me that when she thinks about sex she thinks of it with multiple people...then saying "you know, with another girl or something." I was a jackass and literally said "wow, that really upsets me" sending her into tears, as she claimed she hadn't told anyone that before. But it did upset me...am I alone not good enough for her? I HATE thinking of my girlfriend with another person, male or female. If I were to have a threesome it would have to be with two strangers or I'd pay for it. I hate the idea of hearing her moan differently in bed with another person...I don't think I could get over it. I cannot stand to hear her if she talks about ex-boyfriends because it infuriates me to think of another man with her. I get jealous and quite overly protective.

I know this is just a fantasy, we're young, our hormones are raging and she told me that she wouldn't never act upon it - but it made me think of Luke Wilson's wife in Old School (Juliette Lewis?), who throws orgies while he's away. I really like this girl, she's probably the closest thing to love I've ever known but this just keeps eating away at me. It's hard to bring up again because I feel like I've betrayed her trust. I don't want to break up with her but if I did it would be because of this thought in the back of my mind that she wants other people screwing her or that I'm just not good enough.

Hopefully this makes sense to some of you...I had to write it down and talk about it.