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This is almost certainly a two fold issue.
Firstly, you fear a lack of sensation.
Secondly, you fear what that will do to your erection.
The problem is it's a self fulfilling prophesy, and you go down.
If it was purely sensation, you would be able to revive matters as soon as you took the condom off, but you made it clear that this is not the case.
Two things you can do.
One - go thinner. A standard condom is 0.070 mm thick. A textured or fancy shaped condom (twisted pleasure, for example) is generally a little thicker at around 0.080mm. A "safer" or "stronger" condom is generally 0.100mm thick.
A "thin" latex condom is generally 0.050mm.
By contrast, a poly-urethane condom will be around 0.020mm, and poly-ethylene ones can be as thin as 0.015mm.
Two - go bigger. A common sensation mistake is to select a narrower condom (i.e. lower nominal width) thinking that the tighter fit will allow you to feel your partner better. The fact is that Mr Happy cannot tell whether the rubbing on his head is a lady's giblets, a gentleman's basement stairs, or a condom - all of which goes to show that the right size is the largest condom that will stay on, not the smallest size that you can get on.
As a final test, have a posh wank. By which I mean in private, pleasure yourself manually, wearing various condoms - find the one that feels best on your own, and then get your partner to pleasure you manually wearing it (not the same one, that would be gross).
Immunise your brain to the fear, and you WILL feel the sensation.
As a tip - find the address of all the condom companies that sell in your area, and write a polite letter to them explaining that you have problems with condoms and think the issue might be size and thickness, and that you would like to find the best sort for you; if they don't send you a bag of samples, then I'd be stunned. We do it all the time - if it's a good letter.
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