Anonymous Member

Hey everyone. I've been having this recurring problem with my new partner, and it's become too frustrating to put aside. During foreplay, making out, etc., I stay hard and ready for action. Usually I can keep it up while putting on the condom, and the first few (~5) minutes of penetrations go fine as well. However, when those precious minutes are up, I go down and I stay down, even though I'm not even remotely close to coming. The worst part of all is that no amount of effort, be it manual or oral, can reinvigorate my buddy after the initial failure, so we can't even try again unless we wait for a long while. It's emasculating to say the least.

I suspect the condoms are the issue because I can hardly feel anything when inside her, and apparently my buddy's patience lasts only a few minutes before he dies of boredom; I rarely masturbate so I doubt it's an issue of expectation. I've tried the standard condoms (shared pleasure, twisted pleasure, her pleasure, intense pleasure, and basic lubed) and the results have so far been nearly identical. My last chance at this point is to try the ultra-sensitive and polyethylene types since these are supposed to not interfere as much with sensation. I'm going to the sex shop ASAP to get some samples.

All that being said, my partner is a little looser than I'm used to, so that may play a role as well; however, I have been able to come with her a few times, so that may not be the main problem.

Does anyone out there have experience with similar issues?