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Old 07-24-2009, 12:47 PM   #4 (permalink)
Shell
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Originally Posted by genuinegirly View Post
...I feel a constant nagging, "Where are the kids?"
My biological clock seems to be ticking and I wish I could shut it off....It runs deep. I am frequently overcome by an intense grief.
I feel as though I'm working against some substantial environmental conditioning and biological programming to pursue my education and career...
...there is no "right time" to start a family. Sure, some times are better than others but if you truly are experiencing the feelings above where i've quoted you then, it's time.

...having a child does not mean giving up your dreams. Friends and family can perhaps help. It's true that you will be running on less sleep, less time, and less money...but soooo? I mean...really...you will get a kick of adrenalin thanks to "love".

...a child can give you greater purpose, greater strength, greater determination, etc....all of which will help you and your little family survive the trials and tribulations, reset your priorities, and work through anything that gets in your way.

...talk to some mothers who are pursuing their PHDs while raising a child and see what they say. Some may be sorry they didn't wait...others may say any inconveniences are well worth it...everyone is different. Then you can make a decision based on you and Tt.

...prayer helps...sometimes what we want isn't God's perfect timing...sometimes it is.


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