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Originally Posted by Halanna
I read this thread yesterday. Your plea not for advice, but for actual life experience took time to settle and I've thought about it since I read it yesterday. I only hope I can convey my thoughts in a written format.
Halanna - thank you for this. I truly have already made all of the decisions regarding this situation but was curious as to other women's thoughts and reactions. The curiosity is because I give advice daily on a personal and professional level and am always regarded as 'wise' but even those who are educated in relationship techniques handle their own situations differently.
This makes me think bi-polar, schizophrenic or some other condition that could be controlled by medication.
- It is actually something else but also controllable....
When the word 'abuse' enters your vocabulary I think your ability to envision, to connect and project do not exist. Abuse = end.
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I actually disagree with my personal ability to envision all and any of this (although I do accept that it is a typical response to someone in an abusive situation). I disagree because it is the very reason we are not together. Besides the obvious: I will not settle for anything less than I give,;I will not allow someone to hurt me mentally, physically, or emotionally; and I will not for even a moment be foolish enough to think I am powerful enough to make another human being change, I did sit down and took a long look at what my life was going to be like and that is when I concluded that I had settled and confused comfortable with soulmate.
Thank you again Halanna, I wish I would have had a wise women like yourself to guide me as I learned some pretty painful lessons.