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Old 07-10-2009, 08:47 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Lately I'm finding that it's weighing on my conscious. Did I hurt her somehow? What does she mean "can't enjoy a sex life?" I know her relationships over the last few years have been short and relatively rocky, from what I gather from our infrequent conversations. I've tried to let it go, but she's the girl I gave my virginity to, and a close friend now years later, I need some kind of closure about it.
Unless you raped her, which you didn't, any sexual dissatisfaction or confusion is not your fault. It's because of her personal mental and physiological issues. Her vaginal walls may have torn a bit during sex, but you didn't hurt her intentionally, so don't let it weigh heavy on you.

This isn't your fault, nor is it your problem, even if you're still friends.
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