Plan9

No, this isn't a thread about my need to compensate for my smooth spot. Although I'd like to thank Jazz for sending me another pack of Ballpark hotdogs.

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A'ight, soooo... what does TFP think about friendship / dating / relationships with people who are missing something? Ya know, stuff most of us take for granted... like having both arms or legs, for example. I'm interested to see the perspective of the TFP on this topic.

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TFP is very open-minded and gung ho and all that, so I figure this may be another Ah-Look-Well-Crompsin-Tried (TM) thread... but on the odd chance anybody has any personal experience, I'd like to hear it. I've got friends that lost their parts in the sandbox and I've gone on dates with girls who weren't "all there" in a very non-traditional sense. This thread isn't strictly about dating, but I liked the lame attempt at a catchy title so I stuck with it. I would like the thread to reflect family / friends / coworkers as well as current or potential snoggin' buddies.

My personal philosophy is that as long as the artificially-appendaged person is physically active and doesn't use their "disability" as a crutch for being a flaming asshole or a personal pity-party starter, it's a non-issue. I've seen over and over that we are not the sum of our parts. Quite literally.

A lotta potential facets to this thread: How would you feel about being friends with or dating someone who's missing parts? Ever been surprised by it? What's too much? Is it okay if it's a car accident or the result of military misadventure? Is it not okay if it's a birth defect and you want kids? Is it more okay to be missing a leg and still walking? Are wheelchairs a deal breaker? Does it gross you out? Are you secretly scared of claws and nubs?

Be honest. It's okay to be a shallow jerkface.

I gotta know.

Thoughts?

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