ratbastid

Oy. People! You can't NOT think something.

Right now, sitting in your chair there: DON'T THINK ABOUT MONKEYS.

Thought about 'em, didn't you? The minute your eyes hit that word.

There's something that isn't resolved about your last relationship. You can't force those thoughts away--you have the thoughts you have, and that's all there is to that. It's not like you ARE your thoughts--you're that thing that's HAVING those thoughts. But why those things keep coming up is because there's some kind of unfinished business with her. Something that didn't get said or completed or acknowledged or apologized for or forgiven. Maybe something you didn't thank her for, or didn't have her thank you for. Whatever you think you couldn't possibly say to her? It's THAT. That's what there is to look at. Because you'll never "get good at not thinking about her". The minute you NOT think about her, you just THOUGHT about her.