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Originally Posted by ItWasMe
Everyone needs a safe word that is absolutely heeded with no retrobution, but since you are new to this Halanna's green/yellow/red light suggestion might be a good idea. Until you learn how to read him. From what I understand, part of a Dom's job is paying constant attention to what you are doing to another person both physically and emotionally.
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Hi ItWasMe! I liked your response, it was right on with the part about the Dom knowing/having knowledge of the toys or anything they want to introduce to play.
I quoted this specific part though, because I wanted to make it clearer. In a true Dom/sub relationship, there really never is a time that a safe word should not or can not be part of the scene.
Only responsible Dom's, who's primary responsibility is taking proper care of the sub (who places 100% of their trust in the Dom), will always, always, always make sure there is a safe word in place.
As a Dom, you can't "read" your sub. Part of the relationship is testing limits, testing hard boundries, etc. Even after a long term relationship, no sub should ever submit to a Dom without a safe word. I just can't say that enough. You can't "read" your sub. Never, ever should you engage in play without a safe word.
Safe word.
Safe word.
Safe word.
Define it, agree on it, and when you hear it you STOP every action. It's over.
If you are not using a safe word, then you are not in a true Dom/sub relationship.