I imagine that some guilt can be attributed, wrongly, to the victim feeling stimulated, but someone who is forcing themselves on another person can never justify it by saying she/he wanted it, because they seemed to enjoy it physically. They've already done the rape once the stimulation is acheived. (Hope I said that right)
My first exposure to a raped woman was my first sexual partner in college. She called me her lust buddy. After telling me how she was raped at 13, she also confided in me that she had fantasies about being taken against her will by someone she knew. She wanted this to happen. I didn't know how to take it, but I told her it wouldn't be me, because just as soon as someone says NO, I stop, no matter what stage of sex is happening. I later proved it when she said no while we were in the act. I got up and took a shower. She acted hurt, but I stuck to my guns. We didn't last long after that, cause Cavy don't play that game. I told her the mixed message was just too much. I did suggest counselling, hope she got some.
Just in case you may think I handled that poorly, I think I did too, but what the heck did I know?
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