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You have to look at your priorities, and ask if it would really influence your peace of mind if down the road they were invalidated.
I.e. let's say you're with a girl, everything's peachy for you. A couple years later, she cheats on you. How do you react?
So do you require your SO to be faithful in her sexual exploits only to you? How about emotional? For me, fidelity's a dealbreaker, and my SO and I are quite clear on our requirements to each other. They're not overly restrictive, but they certainly do delimit boundaries.
Now let's say she gets sick with some terrible disease, the end result of which is that the skin on her arm (or face, or crotch, whatever part of the body you wish to inflict) is disfigured. How do you react to this? Is physical beauty a flat requirement for you, and does it have different gradients? How about weight? If she gained weight in the future, would the amount matter?
Etc. etc.
Some things are settling. Settling is bad. You should not compromise your core requirements. On the other hand...there shouldn't be too many of those requirements to begin with. A core requirement is something that you just could not live without, or at least not happily. If you can't imagine a relationship with a girl, regardless of other qualities, that doesn't have attribute A, that's a dealbreaker, and getting with one that has that is settling.
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