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Originally Posted by james t kirk
The word "settling" as taken within the context of a relationship is mainly a word that women use. You won't hear a bunch of men gossiping away saying, "Boy, he really settled for her. He could have done so much better" Men just don't look at it that way. We will comment on another guy's relationship sure. For example, "Man, he married a bitch". But that's about it. Generally you just figure that your friend is happy and so be it.
Women on the other hand, they never stop worrying about "settling". They are constantly analyzing and re-analyzing their relationship. They can convince themselves of just about anything it would seem.
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Enough said.
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Originally Posted by Hyacinthe
I call BS
Most of my friends are guys and they most definitely DO do this exact thing. They will sit around for hours talking about a girl that one of their joint friends is seeing and how he could do better then her, discussing her flaws and how the two of them will never be happy together.
This is not a purely female thing
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Surely it isn't a purely female thing. But I believe it's more a female thing than it is, a male thing.
Perhaps these freinds of your are single guys who've never beein in a long-term, live-in relationship? I know that married men don't sit around for hours talking about their wives and seeing how they could do better. Oh, they complain about their wives, for sure, but they don't have a collective attitude that they settled and maybe could've done better. If anything, most married men have an attitude that they are lucky to be living with a woman who tollerates them. (Whether this attitude is justified or even genuine, or not, is another matter.)