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Amaras · 10-07-2008, 06:56 AM

My situation is that there is an eight year old boy in the house as well as my nine month old daughter.
My position on this is that there should NEVER be shame attached to our body. What we are born with is what we have.
I am culturally different from the other adults in the house in that are a little more reticent about sex, nudity, etc...
But they are thankful about my approach.
Example: I thought I was alone in the house when I got out of the shower one day, so I stepped out the bathroom
nude. I sensed the little boy was watching (he has not been around adult men) so I gently said "Josh, now you
have seen me naked, please let me alone for just a little bit, okay?" He had been hiding behind something.
Got dressed, then asked if he had any questions, concerns, whatever.
He asked me if what he did was wrong. I said "What, spying on me? Yes, I didn't appreciate that."
Then "Seeing me naked? No big deal."
Since then, we seem to communicate in a real open manner. When he has tough questions, I make sure to tell
his Mom exactly what I said. I keep it somewhat clinical and direct. In other words, answer their question,
don't pussyfoot around.
For my daughter, I expect to be open. No, I'm not going to walk around naked. But living with people you
will see them in all sorts of situations.
Sex and our bodies are natural.

It's worshiping the gun in some houses, or the Almighty $ I don't get.
I must have an IPOD, a BMW, etc... to be okay? What the Hell is that?

By the by, from the start I advocate telling the child that NO ONE has a right to touch
their "private area". Or to bully them, for that matter.
Tell us right away.
I think there is a link between not talking to your child about sex/their bodies, or being
ashamed, and they being unwilling to come to you if something horrible has happened.

10-07-2008, 06:56 AM	#9 (permalink)
Amaras Junkie Location: At my daughter's beck and call.	My situation is that there is an eight year old boy in the house as well as my nine month old daughter. My position on this is that there should NEVER be shame attached to our body. What we are born with is what we have. I am culturally different from the other adults in the house in that are a little more reticent about sex, nudity, etc... But they are thankful about my approach. Example: I thought I was alone in the house when I got out of the shower one day, so I stepped out the bathroom nude. I sensed the little boy was watching (he has not been around adult men) so I gently said "Josh, now you have seen me naked, please let me alone for just a little bit, okay?" He had been hiding behind something. Got dressed, then asked if he had any questions, concerns, whatever. He asked me if what he did was wrong. I said "What, spying on me? Yes, I didn't appreciate that." Then "Seeing me naked? No big deal." Since then, we seem to communicate in a real open manner. When he has tough questions, I make sure to tell his Mom exactly what I said. I keep it somewhat clinical and direct. In other words, answer their question, don't pussyfoot around. For my daughter, I expect to be open. No, I'm not going to walk around naked. But living with people you will see them in all sorts of situations. Sex and our bodies are natural. It's worshiping the gun in some houses, or the Almighty $ I don't get. I must have an IPOD, a BMW, etc... to be okay? What the Hell is that? By the by, from the start I advocate telling the child that NO ONE has a right to touch their "private area". Or to bully them, for that matter. Tell us right away. I think there is a link between not talking to your child about sex/their bodies, or being ashamed, and they being unwilling to come to you if something horrible has happened. __________________ Propaganda is to a democracy what the bludgeon is to a totalitarian state. -Noam Chomsky Love is a verb, not a noun. -My Mom The function of genius is to furnish cretins with ideas twenty years later. -Louis Aragon, "La Porte-plume," Traite du style, 1928 Last edited by Amaras; 10-07-2008 at 07:00 AM.. Reason: Forgot to add this