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Originally Posted by Punk.of.Ages
I don't think we are in direct disagreement here Jinn. I think we just draw our lines differently. I think that raising your voice and speaking disrespectfully are examples of bad manners, not impoliteness.
I think, for me, it comes down to manners being a matter of respect and politeness being a matter of censorship. I'm not saying I unjustifiably yell at people or belittle them, I'm saying I speak my mind on all things. Though, on the manners side of things, I also listen to what's coming out of others' minds.
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I have never considered the two separately before but I will give it a shot. I would probably say the opposite. Politeness to me would come naturally and relate directly to the situation. Put me at a table with some friends I will probably behave slightly differently and speak in a different way than I would with say, my grandparents. Neither forms of behavior would necessarily be more or less polite than the other, simply appropriate to the current setting. Though as far as censorship, I would say that we censor ourselves in these situations.
Manners to me would be the more forced issue. There are numerous guidelines imposed by our cultures and customs which tell us what is the "proper" way of doing things. Then again, when I view "manners" I equate it with the word proper.
That is my take be it wrong or right.