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1) As shesus and mm said: let it go. Get over it. Forget about it. Move on.
2) How to move on: girldetective has some good advice. Don't hide from the family. It only makes it worse. You need to put yourself out there, get involved. My SO's family scared the shit out of me at first, and his mother certainly doesn't make things a bed of roses (she's kind of an odd duck)--I'd heard all kinds of horror stories from my SO and his friends prior to meeting his folks (his mom searched his ex-girlfriend's car!) but I knew I had to deal with it for his sake. His mother is the kind of person where if she can't control the situation, she belittles it or ignores it completely. But it's all stuff I have to let go of for his sake, and just keep going to family things and being part of the family. Yeah, it's rough. Yeah, sometimes she makes me want to scream and punch stuff. But instead I just take a deep breath, try to think of the good things she has done, and let it go. But for him, it's worth it to try and make it work.
Focus on that--and you'll get through it. But you do need to confront this instead of running away from it. And you don't even really need to say anything. Just start going to family events, be the best person you can be, and ultimately, don't sink to their level.
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If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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