Originally Posted by little_tippler

This part of what you say makes sense to me. The difference with me is that even though I am generally comfortable in my own skin (we all have moments of doubt), I still feel quite self-conscious, exactly because I often feel like I don't fit. I'm used to it, but I am quite conscious of it. It's not something to change, it's just how I am. I am very sensitive to how others see me, if they are close to me. I am generally sensitive to others and sometimes have to make myself see the bigger picture, in terms of the relevance or irrelevance of any event where I feel someone is judging me, positively or negatively.

I don't think the question makes sense, it's not about what is more important to me. Sometimes I am more concerned with myself and sometimes I am more concerned with others, or sometimes they both occurr at once. It's a changeable thing.

I do find it an interesting exercise though, to get some perspective on yourself, to get some feedback on how others actually do see you. It gives you a sense of your own (un)importance.