PonyPotato

You must realize that people come together not necessarily because they fit into a "group," but more often to participate in an activity together.

I don't have a "group" of friends any longer (in fact, I probably never realy did); the people I spent time with in the dorm have since splintered without the forced closeness of the living situation; the people I spent time with at home never formed a coherent "group," instead people came together for parties, bowling, events, etc. Person A decided to hold event X, invites person B, who invites person C, etc.

I find that now, unless I participate in some sort of club organized activity, I very rarely spend time with more than a couple of people at once. If I do, it is largely for a planned event, or because I visit my best friend and she invites her roommates out with us who then invite their friends. It's an interesting dynamic.. I have few connections here myself, and since I intend to move 7 hours away within a few months I feel it almost pointless to work hard to make new ones when I have plenty of other obligations.

Honestly, if you want to be able to call someone and end up hanging out with a "group" of people, you're probably going to have to meet someone who is already in an established group with an established. I find that establishing habits with people is difficult anyway, and is moreso after the freedom of college is past.

Spontaneous calls resulting in interacting with more than a few people at a time? I doubt it, especially if the people you intend to interact with are responsible people who care about their careers, classes, etc. Sure, I like to get random calls to be asked to hang out.. but I never end up doing so. It always happens at a time when I am busy with deadlines; unfortunately, getting schoolwork done often means scheduling my interactions with others in advance. Sure, it sucks.. but that's the way things work. I can no longer walk down the hallway and find someone to watch a movie with at 3 am.

Edited to add: Another thought! If you are religious whatsoever, consider joining a church. They are often the best way to meet people and participate in organized activities, and usually prove to be a good way to make friends. A lot of the time I sit and wonder why churches don't seem to exist for atheists and agnostics.. the concept is a very good one, and allows you to feel like part of a community.

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