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Originally Posted by abaya
It's really not a problem of using lube... we have this industrial-size bottle of Maximus lube (the best out there, in my opinion, for all orifices of interest) RIGHT NEXT to our pillows, practically. It sits on the bedframe at all times, ready to go... and we made sure to get the kind with the easy-pump on top, so we can use it one-handed.
But usually it's my husband who applies the lube when I need it... maybe after he's tried to get me wet for a while, and it hasn't worked... so it's all up to him to decide when and how to do these things. And I'm just wondering if y'all think that things should be more fair... that the woman should have to apply the lube sometimes, or get herself wet, even make herself have an orgasm during sex, etc... so that not all the pressure is on the man for all these things. Thoughts? I mean, where does this expectation on the man to do everything come from, I guess?
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I hesitate referring to this as a problem as I too experience dry spells but if your feeling guilty about who applies it (and imo him applying it is just part of foreplay) apply it to him, thus he will slide right in. This is what I do, I rarely apply directly to myself and to see his eyes roll back when I do apply it to him is...well...win-win. I also don't see it as an intrusion or interference we keep it handy and it is just part of our sex life.