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Originally Posted by ratbastid
Wait, what?
She called, was drunk, was talking the way people talk when they're drunk. You got irritated and snapped at her. She got drunkenly pissed off about you snapping at her.... And in the morning you were broken up? And that was HER fault? According to your story you're at least 25 years old. Doesn't this strike you as just a BIT "junior high"?
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The OP says she started fighting because he asked her to call her back later since she is blitzed and talking with everyone else. Fuck, I'd ask the same thing. And if a fight did break out, I wouldn't think much of it. However if my girl decides that there is a major issue, an issue conjured up with the mystical potion of booze, then even I'd have a problem. I'd apologize for upsetting her that night, but I would
try to
make her say that it wasn't a big deal and it was silly,
"I was drunk after all."
Pretending it was me:
She has issues to begin with. She was drunk. I was tired. I wasn't really in the conversation. I ask to hang up. She gets pissed. She stays pissed till she gets home. She blames me. I'd apologize and reason with her why there isn't a big deal. She continues. I'll get angry and tell her to go fornicate with herself and not think twice till she realizes there wasn't a big deal. At this point, her making such a huge shit fit over something insignificant would stand out to me.
I wouldn't throw her shit on the lawn, however.
I don't make mountains out of mole hills. But when I am wrong or I am out of line, I do apologize. I, however, do not back down from crap, even if it costs me a relationship.
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You need to decide if you're going to behave maturely enough to have a girlfriend. If you decide you are, then you need to forgive her--and I MEAN forgive her. Real forgiveness in this case means giving up the right to EVER hold this against her EVER in the future, and not needing her to do ANYTHING as a condition of your forgiveness. If you're not willing or ready to do that, then you're not ready to be in a relationship and you should just let her know that so she can quit trying to make it work with you.
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While true... I don't know how applicable it is to this situation. Aerobit is attached and probably a little blinded, but hopefully he can mature from this experience.