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With respect, I really, really object to that. People do not become un-attractive simply because you have found the love of your life. You do not have to have any interest in someone to recognize that they are attractive. To hold anyone to your standard is wrong and cruel.

After all, we are obviously talking about physical "beauty" here in the first place. Assuming that you both married each other for the "right" reasons (and lets not go into that, just mean not for convenience or obligation etc) there must be many things that you each love about each other. Looks are not necessarily at the top of that list.

In other words, you are not the most attractive woman in the world. Therefore, there are others who are more attractive than you. Physicaly. In fact, I'll go so far as to say that in any single area there's probably someone "better". But you as a whole add up to everything your husband considers to be important to him. That's why he married you right?

IMHO being hurt or concerned about this tells your husband or wife that you are insecure about your relationship, and that you don't really believe in their commitment. Further, it says that they can not be honest with you. This is a far worse crime.

Ok, I'll get off the soapbox now.