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Ladies, what's your take on this?
I am posting this on the behalf of one of our male members who would like our advice.
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Hi. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost three years. The first year of that was long distance. We have since been living together in my home town. She hasn't been the happiest living so far away from her family so over the holiday we decided that it would be best if she moved home to be closer to her family. And in a year after I took care of some stuff here I would move to be with her.
She isn't a very trusting person. She would rather spend her time with her cats then actually have a conversation with a real person. For a lack of a better way of putting it, she's not very mentally or emotionally stable. Say I go out with some friends to watch a game for something and I'm a little late getting home, for no other reason then the cab was late picking me up. If she decides that I was cheating on her then that's what she goes with. So when I get home she won't talk to me. The next morning she'll be very stand-offish. Then three days later when I forget to take out the trash or do something simple, she'll explode. And accuse me of not loving her and cheating on her that night I was late. Then I sleep on the couch. And no matter what I do, she doesn't believe me. I could call the cab company and have her talk to the driver and she'd still refuse to believe me.
To get to what I really wanna talk about...
She's was to leave by the 11th of next month. Everything was fine. Or so I thought. As it turns out she'd been spying on me for a long time. Now I have nothing to hide. So...
Yesterday I was at my mother house doing laundry. I got a call from my girlfriend. She started yelling at me and and accusing me of cheating again. It appears that she found pictures on my computer of me fucking an ex-girlfriend. The pictures are almost 5 years old. I thought I had erased them. As it turns out I missed a few that were in a different folder. She refuses to believe that they are old. Even though the date on them is from 2004. Before I even met her.
So now I'm living at my mother's house for a week while she packs. She's quitting her job a month early. She's making her parents come get her right away with out thinking about cost or their lives. She went through a photo album I had and cut herself out of all the pictures. She refuses to talk to me. She took her cats to work (she's a vet) with her today cause she was afraid I was gonna kill them. She smashed half of my beer bottle collection. I'm afraid to be out of my house for too long cause I don't wanna come home to a pile of smoldering rubble.
So I ask you lovely ladies...
Is this normal behavior? And how do I deal with her? How do I convince her I didn't cheat?
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