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Will, I valued my father for the good that he brought to me and I haven't forgotten those times when he was so, so wrong in his treatment of his family. He didn't "abandon" me in the acutely literal way that your father did, but there are other forms of being left behind.
You father sounds like a stubborn man, and not likely to apologize for any action he has taken that he thought best. I don't know if I have characterized him accurately, but I suspect you know that you can't change the core beliefs of a man. You are a kinder, more thoughtful man than your father and you wish him to be better than he is. As others have already said in much better ways, it is not necessary to forget or forgive. It is necessary to accept your father for what he is. Does that make sense?
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