maleficent

I am not a mother, but you've pretty much described me my entire life...

my mother constantly tells a story of how she took me to the pediatrician when I was about 6 months old, and he said to her -you'll have your hands full with this one, you will lead her to water but never make her drink - I was stubborn at 6 months and wanted to do things in my own way... that hasn't changed 43 years later... I listen a little better now.

You might want to ask a third party, family friend, school counselor, private counselor, to act as intermediary and ask her why she's behaving the way she is in certain situations... I know damn well at 9 I wouldn't have told m y parents - not that htey weren't trustworthy but they would have told me what I was feeling was wrong -and I might have wanted some validation for my feelings, but if anyone else was interested in knowing why... I might have said something...

Ihave a soft spot for rebellious kids... having been one... and you don't have to be non-rebellious to get somewhere in life - you don't have to be a robotic stepford child... some of the most successful people in the world I'd be willing to bet a lot were rebellious types as kids... and found their own way...

What she does need to work on is the not seeing any criticism as a personal attack - that to me is the problem and the solution there is the why is she feeling like she is...

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