Blackarican

Yeah so about three weeks ago I was dating a girl whom I had more feelings for than you are supposed when you are in a college relationship. The first couple of weeks seemed to be going great, I mean we hung out daily, saw each other in class, and felt that we had connected pretty well. Three weeks into the relationship, she completely falls off the face of the Earth...No message, no hint to explain what happened, no nothing, not even a good-bye....just gone.

So a week after her disappearance I visit her work to find her not there and but that she works now full time. Finally less than a week ago she calls me to say that she had to work and that she thought that things wouldn't work out because of certain issues such as her new job getting business, finding an apartment, and getting a car.

I then told her how I felt, which seemed to affect her more than I thought it would as she then said things along the line of "I wish you had told me before". Then it went to "I don't know" to "I don't want to say what I want to say".

After explaining myself to her, it almost made her cry and then she told me that we would make this work. Now yesterday she has sent me a message via the internet (ahh wtf!?) to tell me that she is too busy for a relationship and that shes happy where she is. If thats the case with her then...okay but I can't help but ask....

A. have any of you guys done this/ have this happen to you where the person just drops the relationship without any word?

B. I know it could be multiple factors but I would appreciate if people gave me their detailed thoughts on this as to why someone would do this to another.

C. what do you think was the reason she has done what she did?

I'm aware that the relationship was only a month but it still meant something to me. Enough to keep me from doing things I normally did. Now I am not going to play that little violin for myself but can anyone care to explain what went awry from their experiences on life?

I concur the fact that she is having difficulties in her life but before we even started I told her that I wasn't going to commit unless she thought that it was worth it. She said she did so that is the only reason I ever opened up. I can't help but feel like this was just a cheap getaway.

I know that life comes with hardships, whether expected or not, and I'm already rolling with the punches and making lemonade but...the question still burns and eludes me as to why people would do this. To forsake relationships with another even when they tell them otherwise from the beginning. Don't want to come off as whiny but I just want to understand what went on so I can learn from this to take precautions in the future.

Domo.