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~springrain · 06-03-2003, 04:52 AM

i agree with many opinions posted here... and i agree that the media plays a major role in how women and men alike view themselves and each other...

women today are bombared with a lot of "images" of how they "should be"... while there are more choices for us... in many ways it is a catch-22...

we are supposed to be confident independant thinkers... have a career... want "more" than to be married and have children... on the other hand... it's still not okay for a woman to be strong, and be out there agressively advocating her stance or opinion... in the workplace... a tough female boss is still perceived a the "bitch"... or as a "player" or "power hungry"... when in the same regard, those traits in a man are seen as an asset... they are viewed as "hungry go-getters"... women are supposed to be the good "girl next door"... be sweet, loving, kind and nuturing... but of course, we need to know how to be a sexy wildcat in the bedroom... and please a partners to their satisfaction... we must be very careful though... in the eyes of society if we are too sexual... we are deemed loose, slutty, and judged accordingly... we are supposed to want a career... and be well rounded individuals... but also want marriage and children... and let's not forget that after we have those children, we should keep the career, and the sexual prowess, and everything else on the list... while we are giving of ourselves daily for our home and children.... i could go on...

now, before people start to jump all over this post and state that women have choices... i will AGREE. we do have choices...

my statements here are only in response to the posted question "do women have low self esteem"... i think that women often times do have low self esteem in that they are constantly trying to measure up to all the idealogies that society has put out there... the choices are often overwhelming, and most of the implied shoulds" contradict one another ...

i do "blame" (blame is the wrong word here) the male-dominated advertising industry for a lot of it... we are constantly fed "picture perfect" images of what a woman/wife/mother today SHOULD be... when in reality, the picture that is presented is not realisitic for anyone.

before you start ranting... please know, this is just an OPINION... i am not trying to male-bash, media-bash, or anything like that... just commenting on what i've perceived...

06-03-2003, 04:52 AM	#20 (permalink)
~springrain Banned Location: central USA	i agree with many opinions posted here... and i agree that the media plays a major role in how women and men alike view themselves and each other... women today are bombared with a lot of "images" of how they "should be"... while there are more choices for us... in many ways it is a catch-22... we are supposed to be confident independant thinkers... have a career... want "more" than to be married and have children... on the other hand... it's still not okay for a woman to be strong, and be out there agressively advocating her stance or opinion... in the workplace... a tough female boss is still perceived a the "bitch"... or as a "player" or "power hungry"... when in the same regard, those traits in a man are seen as an asset... they are viewed as "hungry go-getters"... women are supposed to be the good "girl next door"... be sweet, loving, kind and nuturing... but of course, we need to know how to be a sexy wildcat in the bedroom... and please a partners to their satisfaction... we must be very careful though... in the eyes of society if we are too sexual... we are deemed loose, slutty, and judged accordingly... we are supposed to want a career... and be well rounded individuals... but also want marriage and children... and let's not forget that after we have those children, we should keep the career, and the sexual prowess, and everything else on the list... while we are giving of ourselves daily for our home and children.... i could go on... now, before people start to jump all over this post and state that women have choices... i will AGREE. we do have choices... my statements here are only in response to the posted question "do women have low self esteem"... i think that women often times do have low self esteem in that they are constantly trying to measure up to all the idealogies that society has put out there... the choices are often overwhelming, and most of the implied shoulds" contradict one another ... i do "blame" (blame is the wrong word here) the male-dominated advertising industry for a lot of it... we are constantly fed "picture perfect" images of what a woman/wife/mother today SHOULD be... when in reality, the picture that is presented is not realisitic for anyone. before you start ranting... please know, this is just an OPINION... i am not trying to male-bash, media-bash, or anything like that... just commenting on what i've perceived... Last edited by ~springrain; 06-05-2003 at 04:14 AM..