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Its funny...when I turned 30 its like a light switch went on and I suddenly saw no point in every single get together involving alcohol, I dumped many a friend because they just couldnt handle getting together for dinner and shooting the shit (or going bowling without massive amounts of beer)
I face the same situation with Dave's friends now, most of whom are in their lat 20's to early 30's. We hardly see them much because they (single or no) still believe that getting together on a weekend HAS to involve how much alcohol they can consume and staying up/out til 3 or 4 in the morning.
Married people hanging with single people is really not that much fun, single people have a totally different mindset about "whats fun" than married people do (at least in the circles of people I know) They simply have no one to be accountable to. Instead of me thinking its fun, they appear to me to be nothing but a bunch of drunks that think a good time can only be had when drinking is involved (Im NOT against drinking....I do drink, but good lord knows I'd rather make a pan of lasagna for friends and sit around eating it watching some version of I love the 70's 80's or 90 on VH1 lol)
We had an anniversary party at our house last nite....I had not really intended on drinking other than the champagne I bought for a toast...enuff for one glass each person...but Dave mixed up our new absinthe for people and they decided they didnt like it so I ended up drinking 3 cups of it so it wouldnt go to waste. This is no lie....I quit drinking it at 630 pm, when I woke up at 5 I still felt drunk...this, to me is NOT fun....It was a hell of a day at work.
I know this is rambling, and I know Im not giving you any advice, I have none to give because I have learned in the last two years that some people think they have to be hell bent on keeping up with their friends and ruining their livers as a group thing. I just wanted you to know that I DO totally understand where you're coming from and how you think (well cept for the smoking and tats, cause both are part of my life lol)
Tell her how you feel....tell her how utterly ridiculous she is making herself look....ask her why she's trying SO hard to not to appear married.
I feel for you I really really do.....
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I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!
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