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glooper23 · 09-08-2007, 04:01 PM

There's a girl who met a guy this past summer. She seemed to like him, but then he stopped calling, so she set her sights on me. When he started calling again, she said we should just be friends. When he stopped calling again, she did the same thing. I like her an extreme amount - I have spent time with a lot of girls over the past few years, but I never really liked any. This girl, for some reason, makes me feel so happy. All I want to do is spend time with her...

We went out last week, and she told me she wants to be my girlfriend. We kissed and talked all night. The next day, the guy called again, and she decided she wants him at the moment. I angrily wrote a letter telling her how much it hurts for her to play games with someone who likes her so much. I also talked about how much she means to me, and how I am willing to do anything to make it work with her. She apparently cried after reading my letter because if it wasn't for this other guy, she would instantly go out with me. So now, we're agreeing to be friends, and if it doesn't work with this guy, she will go out with me.

I've tried my hardest to look at this girl as a friend, but I can not do it. When I'm around her, I want so badly to treat her as more than a friend. It makes me extremely uncomfortable, and I can tell she feels the same way. It really sucks, and I don't know we're going to. We work together, so we have to see eachother all the time.

There's the background, and here's the reason for my post. What do you recommend I do? Should I back off and act like a true platonic friend, something that's simply next to impossible for me to do? She said she would go on walks with me and get to know me better. Should I start to lay it on hard, ya know, give her a reason to choose me over this other guy? They're not bf / gf, they're just "seeing eachother, taking it slow." The guy is about an hour away, and she will only get to him once a month at best. She gets to see me all the time, so I instantly have the leverage there.

I'm going to stop the talk about how much I like her, and I won't try things that are really really above friend level. But, would you recommend I try to convince her to go with me?

09-08-2007, 04:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
glooper23 Banned	Advice regarding a girl There's a girl who met a guy this past summer. She seemed to like him, but then he stopped calling, so she set her sights on me. When he started calling again, she said we should just be friends. When he stopped calling again, she did the same thing. I like her an extreme amount - I have spent time with a lot of girls over the past few years, but I never really liked any. This girl, for some reason, makes me feel so happy. All I want to do is spend time with her... We went out last week, and she told me she wants to be my girlfriend. We kissed and talked all night. The next day, the guy called again, and she decided she wants him at the moment. I angrily wrote a letter telling her how much it hurts for her to play games with someone who likes her so much. I also talked about how much she means to me, and how I am willing to do anything to make it work with her. She apparently cried after reading my letter because if it wasn't for this other guy, she would instantly go out with me. So now, we're agreeing to be friends, and if it doesn't work with this guy, she will go out with me. I've tried my hardest to look at this girl as a friend, but I can not do it. When I'm around her, I want so badly to treat her as more than a friend. It makes me extremely uncomfortable, and I can tell she feels the same way. It really sucks, and I don't know we're going to. We work together, so we have to see eachother all the time. There's the background, and here's the reason for my post. What do you recommend I do? Should I back off and act like a true platonic friend, something that's simply next to impossible for me to do? She said she would go on walks with me and get to know me better. Should I start to lay it on hard, ya know, give her a reason to choose me over this other guy? They're not bf / gf, they're just "seeing eachother, taking it slow." The guy is about an hour away, and she will only get to him once a month at best. She gets to see me all the time, so I instantly have the leverage there. I'm going to stop the talk about how much I like her, and I won't try things that are really really above friend level. But, would you recommend I try to convince her to go with me?