NEVER tell a person with bulimia that their problems would go away if they lost weight. actually if you could not think that, then that would be good too.
weight is a number, health is a lifestyle. if you want her to be healthier, then emphasize that her health is important and you think her habits are unhealthy. when listing off things that are positive about her, keep appearance out of it if you can. eating disorders stem from an obsession and losing weight might harm her more than help her if she does it for the wrong reasons.
and yeah, you can't force people to change. it's frustrating, i know, but she has to care; you doing so isn't enough. be supportive and let her know you'll be there if she needs you, but other than that it's out of your hands.
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